I have a 20-year-old son and fully plan on going on his first date 😂🤣. And yes, he's 20 and has never been on a date. This might be because he doesn't have a driver's license, not uncommon for Gen Z. They also don't date and perhaps there is causation here. At least a correlation...
Your date with Alice brought back memories—I’ve had a similar experience. I wasn’t quite as clever as you, though, when it came to finding a graceful exit! 🙃
Thank you Rick for sharing your journey with us. I really appreciate being along for the ride, and I absolutely love your sense of humor.
I’m sorry to hear about the coffee date, however, I’m definitely looking forward to hearing the full story. 🦋
Thanks Melissa! The coffee date is an interesting one...I've changed my tune on that particular story a bit since it happened but I'm still going to just let the piece be without majorly editing it.
(spoiler: I still find them to be sooooo boring though)
My son is horrible at dating apps because he doesn't like texting. He said girls only want to text. He likes the phone or in person. I told him to find the fun in the text. And to text me back once in a while!
I feel your son - the texting gets old fastttt. I'm not big on the phone either, I'd rather just meet in person. The hard part is that some girls want to meet up fairly quickly and other want to text for awhile. And there's no way to tell which is which without asking, so sometimes I've asked for the date and then the girl vanishes. I'm sure your son has experienced something similar.
You are definitely a girl he could text, work on some funny bits with, I support these increased interactions.
Rick, I appreciate your humor and, in equal measure, your vulnerability in sharing the trials and tribulations of dating in the digital age. I'm looking at your post from an anthropological perspective because when I was in the dating pool, there was no internet except for military use and you still had to catch someone on the phone or leave a message "after the tone." I agree that humor is essential. In addition to a sense of honor, honesty, and shared values, humor was a non-negotiable. This must have been wise, because 29 years later, my husband and I are still married. During the toughest times, humor above all else got us through.
Thank you, Celeste! I don't think I've ever been examined from an anthropological perspective before (except maybe by my stalker?? she comes up in a later issue), so I'm quite flattered.
My best relationships have been ones where we match each others humor style, so it's super important to me. It's just so hard over cold texting/apps to make it mesh. I've always been best in person. I'm glad you and your husband are going strong though, big 30 coming up!!
Chiming in on this party to say I agree about matching each others humor. When a guy merely nods along as multiple and natural contributions of humor sails over his head, it's a no for me, even if I think he's a wonderful person. It would be a dreary existence not to laugh WITH my person.
I really enjoy picturing your voice memo playing out loud for all her coworkers to hear :-)
Also, your story about the fountain date and the expectant kiss brought back a date where I resorted to pretending to be VERY into cats (he was allergic). Told him not only were they my favorite animal (they're not necessarily) but I wanted nine of them. He didn't call me again. I'm going to have to write about that one one of these days...
I often find humor is a great way to relate to people—and just as easily a method to weed out the folks you're not meshing with. Voice notes are typically delightful but I do understand the mortified feeling of one randomly playing at work. I'm assuming Maddi unmatched because she was busy finding a new job?
Calling her mom a serial killer — probably fine. Implying her mom couldn't come on the first date? One step too far.
I have a 20-year-old son and fully plan on going on his first date 😂🤣. And yes, he's 20 and has never been on a date. This might be because he doesn't have a driver's license, not uncommon for Gen Z. They also don't date and perhaps there is causation here. At least a correlation...
Oh, so THAT'S the gaffe I made. I should have posted this all sooner, sometimes I'm just out here making mistakes I don't even realize.
Your date with Alice brought back memories—I’ve had a similar experience. I wasn’t quite as clever as you, though, when it came to finding a graceful exit! 🙃
Thank you Rick for sharing your journey with us. I really appreciate being along for the ride, and I absolutely love your sense of humor.
I’m sorry to hear about the coffee date, however, I’m definitely looking forward to hearing the full story. 🦋
Thanks Melissa! The coffee date is an interesting one...I've changed my tune on that particular story a bit since it happened but I'm still going to just let the piece be without majorly editing it.
(spoiler: I still find them to be sooooo boring though)
OMG. There are some interesting people out there.
My son is horrible at dating apps because he doesn't like texting. He said girls only want to text. He likes the phone or in person. I told him to find the fun in the text. And to text me back once in a while!
I feel your son - the texting gets old fastttt. I'm not big on the phone either, I'd rather just meet in person. The hard part is that some girls want to meet up fairly quickly and other want to text for awhile. And there's no way to tell which is which without asking, so sometimes I've asked for the date and then the girl vanishes. I'm sure your son has experienced something similar.
You are definitely a girl he could text, work on some funny bits with, I support these increased interactions.
Girls.
Rick, I appreciate your humor and, in equal measure, your vulnerability in sharing the trials and tribulations of dating in the digital age. I'm looking at your post from an anthropological perspective because when I was in the dating pool, there was no internet except for military use and you still had to catch someone on the phone or leave a message "after the tone." I agree that humor is essential. In addition to a sense of honor, honesty, and shared values, humor was a non-negotiable. This must have been wise, because 29 years later, my husband and I are still married. During the toughest times, humor above all else got us through.
Thank you, Celeste! I don't think I've ever been examined from an anthropological perspective before (except maybe by my stalker?? she comes up in a later issue), so I'm quite flattered.
My best relationships have been ones where we match each others humor style, so it's super important to me. It's just so hard over cold texting/apps to make it mesh. I've always been best in person. I'm glad you and your husband are going strong though, big 30 coming up!!
Chiming in on this party to say I agree about matching each others humor. When a guy merely nods along as multiple and natural contributions of humor sails over his head, it's a no for me, even if I think he's a wonderful person. It would be a dreary existence not to laugh WITH my person.
I really enjoy picturing your voice memo playing out loud for all her coworkers to hear :-)
Also, your story about the fountain date and the expectant kiss brought back a date where I resorted to pretending to be VERY into cats (he was allergic). Told him not only were they my favorite animal (they're not necessarily) but I wanted nine of them. He didn't call me again. I'm going to have to write about that one one of these days...
I often find humor is a great way to relate to people—and just as easily a method to weed out the folks you're not meshing with. Voice notes are typically delightful but I do understand the mortified feeling of one randomly playing at work. I'm assuming Maddi unmatched because she was busy finding a new job?